DEALING WITH YOUR ANGER.

                        
                                   
DEALING WITH YOUR   ANGER....




Anger is a completely normal,usually healthy human emotion.But when it gets out of control and turns destructive,it can lead to problems in your personal life.It can also make you feel that you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful negative emotion and being civilized human beings everyone should get rid of this powerful negative emotion.People use a variety of both conscious and unconscious processes to deal with their angry feelings.The three main approaches are:
                                                                                    Expressing
                                                                                    Suppressing
                                                                                    Calming.
Expressing your angry feelings is an assertive,not aggressive,attitude.It is the healthiest way to express anger.To do this,you have to learn how to make clear what your needs are and how to get them met without hunting others.Being assertive doesn't mean being pushy or demanding.It means being respectful of yourself and others.Unexpressed anger can create other problems.It can lead to pathological expressions of anger such as passive-aggressive behaviour or a personality that seems quite cynical and hostile.People who are constantly putting others down,criticizing everything,and making cynical comments haven't learned how to constructively express their anger.
Anger can be suppressed and then converted or redirected.This happens when you hold in your anger,stop thinking about it,and focus on something positive.The danger in this type of response is that if isn't allowed outward expression,your anger can turn inward on yourself.Anger turned inward may cause hypertension,high blood pressure or depression.
Finally,you can calm down inside.This means not just controlling your outward behaviour,but also controlling your internal responses.Simple relaxation tools,such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery,can help calm down angry feelings.There are books and courses like meditation can teach you relaxation techniques.If you are involved in a relationship where both partners are hot-tempered,it might be a good idea for both of you to learn these techniques.

Jokes: 
When i was young I didn't like going to weddings.
My grandmother would tell me,"you're the next".
However,she stopped telling that after I started saying the same thing to her at funerals.

Teacher:John,what is the chemical formula for water?
John:H I J K L M N O!!
Teacher:What are you talking about?
John:Yesterday you said it's H to O!